So…”ideal date”…I don’t get that.
I UNDERSTAND…I just don’t get it. Like Michael Stipe and “this fame thing”. (My periods are above the normal laws of English).
Everyone knows, deep down inside at least, that the answer to this question in the basic, expected sense (dinner and a movie, meet for coffee, meet for tea, meet in the middle of a rubbish dump, etc…) is VIRTUALLY meaningless compared to what you’re REALLY thinking/feeling when you ask/are asked that.
Which is: “Who gives a sh1t? The most wonderful situation would be ruined by the wrong company and the most mundane, boring situation would be vastly improved by the right company.”
It’s a cr@p question. It’s part of the charade…I mean, noone CARES about half the stuff on a dating site. It’s trivial and unimportant, put there to fill up space between the things people actually DO care about.
Which would be: What do they look like, how do they think, how do they “feel”, what do they believe, what do they want…you know, things that actually really matter when it comes to compatibility.
The rest is, in comparison, meaningless.
It’s the civilization of dating/mating; a way to make it easier for shallow people to find each other, and for non-shallow people to weed out the shallow ones. Nothing more. (Per JJ: ItMoM, JT)
It would serve just as well, but be considerably more honest/less subtle, to simply have (apart from the necessaries described above) a section labeled: “Write whatever you want:”
That’s what people are looking at. Noone cares what your favorite food is, not REALLY. They want to see “you”. They want to see how you present yourself. At least, I HOPE most people are this way…it would be sad if someone actually messaged someone else MAINLY because they both like the oxford comma.
So if you see a profile where they skip the BS and just get right to the point, it’s not necessarily because they have nothing to say. It’s not necessarily that they “don’t care”. It MAY be because most of the questions asked are deemed unworthy of lengthy answer, since they essentially don’t mean a d@mn thing. Therefore, to not answer is a legitimate means of expression.
Or, they just don’t give a sh1t. Too close to call, really.
BTW…why the fck does everyone like ‘Amelie’?